Armenia, where it starts
I was born in Armenia, when it was still part of the Soviet Union. Nothing about what came next was handed to me, and that turned out to matter.
I was born in Armenia, when it was still part of the Soviet Union. Nothing about what came next was handed to me, and that turned out to matter.
Trained from nine in Moldova under the Russian standard, which puts the performance above everything: above the body, above the mind. You learn extraordinary discipline. You also learn to override yourself, and nobody tells you what that costs later.
A scholarship took me to Germany in my early teens. Then came roughly forty auditions across Europe over two years: trains, unfamiliar studios, and no. I know precisely what that corridor does to a dancer's sense of herself, because I walked it for two years before anyone said yes.
Dutch National Ballet took me into the corps de ballet at nineteen, and the company has been home ever since: the same casting sheets, the same premieres, the same Tuesday class in November.
I worked my way up rank by rank, and somewhere along the way I quietly decided grand sujet was my ceiling. I told myself I was being realistic. Realism, it turns out, is often just fear with better manners.
A period of personal struggle sent me looking for tools nobody had ever given me. I trained as an iPEC certified professional coach, a COR.E Performance Dynamics specialist, an Energy Leadership Index master practitioner and an NLP practitioner. Not to leave dancing, but to change what it feels like to do it.
The company promoted me to soloist. Three years of working on my mind did what more hours in the studio never could: the dancing changed because the dancer had. The ceiling I had accepted turned out to be a belief, not a fact.
Becoming a mother raised the hardest question yet: how to be a great dancer, a great mother and a great coach at the same time, without shortchanging any of them. Answering it taught me more about pressure, standards and self-kindness than any stage ever had. You can hold a very high standard and hold yourself kindly, at the same time.
I've now coached dozens of dancers from companies including Dutch National Ballet, Bayerisches Staatsballett, New York City Ballet, Opéra National de Paris, Royal Opera House and San Francisco Ballet, on the same patterns I lived myself. Most dancers were never told any of this. It is a joy to be the one who tells them.
Why this work
Our training is very good at producing discipline and very bad at producing self-trust. Dancers learn to ignore pain, doubt, exhaustion and instinct, and then are asked, on stage, to be entirely present and completely free. Those are contradictory instructions, and nobody is taught how to hold both.
That's the gap I work in. Not motivation, not positive thinking. Structure. The same seriousness you already bring to your body, applied to the part of you that decides whether tonight goes well.
I have never once regretted the years I spent auditioning. I do regret how alone I let myself be while I did it.
My work with Naira has been truly transformative. Through her guidance, I've been able to gain perspective on my past, develop tools for staying confident and positive in the present, and establish clearly what I want my future to look like. I finally understand my power as an individual and what my specific goals and priorities are in life.
Lindy Mesmer
★★★★★
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